Begin by asking students how they would feel going to school all year, giving up summer vacation. After students respond, ask them, “What if this idea was popular and other students were trying to get you to change your mind?  Would you?” Allow students time to respond.

Point out to students that even though the idea may have been popular with others, that did not change how they personally felt about it. Explain that they just went against peer pressure. Define peer pressure by saying, “The decisions you make help determine the type of person you will become. Whether something is popular and other people are doing it should not be the deciding force in your life. It is important to avoid the pressure to do things that you may not feel comfortable doing.”

Tell students that you are going to list ways to avoid negative peer pressure. Review each strategy so every student understands what it means and what it looks like in their life:

1. Say “no” in an assertive way and show others that you mean what you say. If you appear confident, people won’t be so eager to try to influence you.
2. Be kind and turn the situation into a more positive one. If you are trying to go against what others are doing or saying, give an example as to why you feel the way you do.
3. Be repetitive. Do not change your mind. Make how you feel clear by repeating yourself if you need to. If you practice saying “no” around people you trust, then you will feel more confident in saying it when you’re feeling peer pressure.
4. Walk away. If you can, walk away from whatever is making you feel pressured.
5. Turn to a trusted friend or friends for help. If you have friends who you know will stand by your side and stick up for you, allow them to help you stay confident in how you feel.
6. Find help from a trusted mentor or adult. If the situation is serious and you don’t think you can handle the pressure alone, talk to a trusted adult, like a parent or teacher, about what you’re going through.
7. Speak up if you see peers trying to pressure others. If you aren’t feeling pressured, but you know someone else is, it is likely they could use a friend and a confident supporter.
8. Check your friendships. Ask yourself if the people you hang out with are good or bad influences on your life. If you feel like they pressure you instead of making you confident in who you are, then you need to decide if they are truly good friends.
9. Make new friends. If you think your friends are not good people to keep around, then find people who respect you and share the same values and interests as you. You will be happier with these people as friends!

Inform students that peer pressure can be classified into two categories: verbal peer pressure and nonverbal peer pressure. Tell students that verbal peer pressure is pressure from friends that results from spoken words. It happens when someone says something to a person that directly puts pressure on them. Verbal pressure can include threats, mockery, or insults. Nonverbal peer pressure is pressure from friends that results from unspoken words. It happens indirectly. Nothing is said to a person, but when a person sees others doing it, the person feels the pressure to do it, too. Nonverbal pressure includes the stare down, fitting in with the crowd, and the cold shoulder.

On chart paper or a board, create a T-chart with one side labeled “Verbal Peer Pressure,” and the other side labeled “Nonverbal Peer Pressure,” and ask students to provide examples of each. Tell students that while peer pressure is mostly viewed as negative, sometimes your friends’ influence can be a good thing; they may stop you from doing something that you may later regret, or they may encourage you to do something you were nervous about. Both verbal and nonverbal peer pressure can influence a person to make a choice or decision that can either be good or bad.

Next, ask for student volunteers to role-play a peer pressure scenario. (Choose from the “Peer Pressure Scenarios List” activity sheet provided with this lesson or generate your own scenario.) Role-play the scenario and then discuss using these question prompts:

1. Was this peer pressure? How do you know?
2. Was this pressure positive or negative?
3. Was the pressure verbal or nonverbal?
4. In the future, what can be done to resist this type of peer pressure?

Direct students to work in groups to plan and act out various peer pressure scenarios (use the “Peer Pressure Scenarios List” activity sheet for scenarios). Inform groups that they can decide if the main character will give in to the peer pressure or will resist the peer pressure in their scenario. Hold a discussion after each group presents their scenario to the class. Ask the following questions to prompt discussion: What type of peer pressure was represented in this scenario, verbal or nonverbal? Did the character give in to the peer pressure or resist the peer pressure? If the main character did give in to the peer pressure, what do you think the consequence(s) could be? In the future, what can be done to resist this type of pressure?

After scenarios are acted out and discussed, have students write a reflection about peer pressure. Students may write about what they learned from today’s lesson or reflect on a time when they experienced peer pressure.

Say to students, “At one time or another, you will experience peer pressure. It is important that you are aware that it can be verbal or nonverbal. Peer pressure can also be positive and negative. Being aware of the different types of negative peer pressure is a great way to start resisting them.”